Self Esteem

Balanced Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is about balance. At one extreme, we have people with low self-confidence. At the other end, we have people who may be over-confident.

If you are under-confident, you'll avoid taking risks and stretching yourself; and you might not try at all. And if you're over-confident, you may take on too much risk, stretch yourself beyond your capabilities, and crash badly. You may also find that you're so optimistic that you don't try hard enough to truly suceed.

Getting this right is a matter of having the right amount of confidence, founded in reality and on your true ability. With the right amount of self-confidence, you will take informed risks, stretch yourself (but not beyond your abilities) and try hard.

 

Tips for improving your Self-Confidence

• Notice when you feel confident and when you don't. Who are you with, what are you doing, and what can you change? Boosting self-esteem and improving self-confidence involves being self-aware.

• Figure out if you're a 'why' or a 'why not' person. Why not accept yourself for who you are? Why not go to the party alone? Boosting self-esteem and improving self-confidence is about acceptance and challenge!

• Replace 'what will people think if I do that/' with 'People think about themselves.' Boosting self-esteem and improving self-confidence is being aware that people aren't thinking of you nearly as often as they're thinking about themselves.

• Share your feelings and weaknesses with people. They'll likely be supportive, positive - and they'll even like you more. Boosting self-esteem and improving your self-confidence is about being real.

• Listen to what you tell yourself. Do you call yourself stupid, fat, ugly, foolish? Boosting self-esteem and improving self-confidence involves treating yourself kindly-because if you don't, who will? So STOP with the negative comments!!!!